SOCIAL MEDIA USE BEFORE, DURING AND AFTER DIVORCE
Almost everyone under the age of 70 has some form of social media profile. If you are reading this article you have one, but odds are that you have a profile across multiple platforms, such as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat. If you are considering divorce, even if you believe it will be uncontested, you’re going to need some guidelines in social media use during the divorce process.
Social Media Before Divorce
Many studies have shown that social media use will impact a marriage. The results are pretty clear that increased usage of a platform such as Facebook will correlate with a decrease in quality of marriage. Are the “experts” saying that your marriage failed because of social media? No, but you may be on social media more often due to unhappiness in a marriage and that is where they intersect.
What Not to Post
It really should go without saying, but during a marriage, don’t use social media for name calling or venting about your partner or the quality of the marriage. If you need to vent for your own sanity, find a friend or confidant. Go see a counselor. Everyone looks through their spouses Facebook feed during the divorce process. Do not supply the ammunition to be used against you in court
Precautions to Take if Divorce is Likely
If you’re divorce is possibly on the horizon, take some precautions. You can’t delete the internet, but you can sure make something difficult to find. Remove any negativity from your social media accounts. Don’t get paranoid about your friend list, but you might want to block anyone who might be the spy for other side. Check the privacy settings to make sure the general public will not have a clear view of your news feed. Lastly, do not delete your social media account. If anything, deactivate it. I know many people who do this as a break from social media and you probably do as well. It’s not that unusual.
Social Media During Divorce
If the Divorce is already ongoing, it’s best to be radio silent when it comes to social media. The other side is probably looking at your account for anything to use against you in court. For that reason, it’s best to minimize social media use, check those privacy settings, and take a close look at your friend list.
Even if things are moving forward in civil fashion, you don’t want to turn your amicable divorce into a contested legal battle. Therefore you should tread lightly on social media and keeping your divorce off Facebook and Twitter.
What Not to Post
Avoid sharing all the nitty-gritty details of the divorce process. The honest truth is: your entire Facebook list doesn’t need to know exactly how visitation was decided and who ended up with great-aunt’s diamonds. During an amicable divorce, consider discussing when to make the announcement on social media, if at all, so neither spouse is blindsided.
Consider Agreements on Child-Related Posts
Couples with children might want to consider including an agreement about child-related social media posts in divorce paperwork. If you feel strongly about protecting the privacy of your children, talk to the other parent about limiting pictures and status updates on social media that give insight into children’s personal lives. At It’s Over Easy, we provide a range of templates and tools to help you cement divorce agreements via a hassle-free process.
Social Media After Divorce
If children were part of the divorce, you’re going to be online. Social media is too ingrained in our society to not be online. Schools and organizations are communicating more and more on social media so protect yourself. Above all, you might want to be cognizant of what you are posting as that ex may be looking for ammo in a potential custody matter down the road.
If children under the age of 18 weren’t involved in the divorce, have fun with that social media account, though you might want to refrain from bashing your ex online and take the high road. You probably share some friends and possibly business contacts.